Not everyone is meant to be in our lives to the end.
Events may happen that are simply part of life and there’s nothing we can do or not do to prevent them…. life isn’t meant to be controlled. It’s meant to be lived. It’s not meant to be perfect or follow some schedule that adheres to our efforts. It’s messy, chaotic, and beautiful. It shows us our greatest strengths in our darkest times, and it gives us our greatest gifts in the most unexpected ways.
Our job then becomes to trust. By building our resilience through learning to resource yourself in a generative way. “The moment you change your perception is the moment you rewire the chemistry of your body.” Bruce Lipton
What do you do when someone brings pain, suffering and disrespect into your life. Are you able to let them go and wish them well from afar? Make sure you limit your energy and time spent on them, remember you are worthy of respect and kindness. But how do we move forward from a painful dejection? Grieving takes its toll on the body in so many different ways, both emotional and physical, as we try to survive our emotional pain. Some people might withdraw their interest in the outside world for a time, or lose some of their capacity to love, or would you close your heart, protecting yourself from further pain?
Loss and grief are a fact of life, everyone will experience the pain of losses and there are universal dynamics in grieving. Grief is not a disease to be recovered from. It is the normal, human response to a significant loss. Everyone has their own reaction to grief, yet it is an instinctive response to separation, we need to process our mourning.
What can we do to move forward?
Maintain your personal values: It’s incumbent on all of us to grow up, examine our hearts - our capacity to care about one another. Nothing is stronger than caring and nothing is weaker than oppressing others, or being incapable or scared to feel compassion.
Beliefs, meaning and values: You matter.
What can we do to find new ways of being in the world, being with others, and being with ourselves? Yes, the grieving process does eventually fade with time as you accept the loss you've suffered and find ways to make your life feel whole again. Through counselling we can explore and discover together how you can break through your old stories, accept your loss or grief and move forward from any stuck patterns of behaviour, that no longer serve you. Counselling can allow you to feel and process your feelings at that given moment, I am there providing a space for your grief with a sense of compassion, and free from judgment. Expressing your feelings is just as important as accepting your feelings, in a way that is helpful to you.
Emotions are energy in motion. Are you experiencing blocks in the flow of your life, in your energy and forward momentum? Choose what's best for you. Even during dark bouts of grief, you still possess the dignity of choice.
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